20 April 2021

The Busy Excuse

Too often we use the "I'm busy" excuse to assuage our guilt over not getting something done. But are we really too busy?

  • Am I busy avoiding what I should be doing?
  • Am I busy evading the work that's eternally important?
  • Am I too busy connecting with the world to connect with the divine?
I'm pondering these questions and looking for ways to change. It's not easy, and it certainly is a process, rather than an event.

What do you think?

07 January 2021

Conduit for Revelation

In November 2019 I gave a talk in Stake conference that I shared in a previous blog post. I've continued to ponder on the subject of that talk for over a year. Particularly this paragraph:
A popular question in Christian circles, when facing a situation or need, is: What would Jesus do? Frankly, that question makes me uncomfortable because I can’t do what Jesus did. I don’t have the ability to read minds and hearts; I don’t have the power to heal all manner of sicknesses, and I don’t have the authority to raise the dead.
At the first of this year I restarted reading the Book of Mormon, reading just one chapter a day. I love this book and find it to be a conduit for revelation to me. The other night as I began to read a chapter the conduit opened up and my mind filled with understanding such that I had to pay attention and write it all down. Perhaps what came to me is old news to you, but if not, here it is for our mutual benefit:

Healing the spiritually blind: help them to see the truths of the Gospel and the Lord's hand in their life; help them to see the eternal purpose of life, the Plan of Salvation, their divine nature and individual worth.

Healing the spiritually deaf: teach them the ways to hear the Spirit through the scriptures, General Conference addresses, the still small voice, warm feelings, remembrances, etc.

Healing the spiritually lame: teach them the skills and practices that will help them move forward spiritually under their own power.

Raising the spiritually dead: reactivating someone, restoring their spiritual life.

Feeding the multitudes spiritually: give excellent lessons, talks and testimonies; well prepared, deeply fulfilling spiritually, giving them living water and the bread of life.

Succoring the spiritual beggar: give time and attention to those who struggle, who are poor financially, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, etc.

Curing the spiritually sick: love and accept those who sins are visible or smellable, as well as those whose are not; love is a healing balm; acceptance creates trust that allows for change to happen.

I was so energized by that revelation! It helped me understand that although I can't heal people physically, I can have an effect on them spiritually and can put this into practice in my ministering efforts.

I have always loved visiting teaching and done my best to be faithful in that. Ministering is just a broader vision of taking care of the needs of the members. I miss being visited regularly. I think that until ministering is better understood and practiced, we won't be able to become a Zion people. Because I don't have any visible physical needs people think I don't need anything. I really miss the uplift of the monthly spiritual message and would love to receive something similar still.

I know Heavenly Father understands my needs because I got a strange phone call the other day from a Jehovah Witness (with an out of state phone number) saying she was my neighbor just calling to share a Bible verse with me. She actually shared two different verses and then bore her testimony of the Savior. We talked for only a few minutes, but it sure lifted my spirit and fed my soul to talk to someone about the gospel and how it is our anchor in the time we live. How she got my number is a mystery, but I'm so grateful she was faithful to her conviction to share the gospel.

21 November 2020


Yesterday's message from our prophet was wonderful and inspiring. He invited us to flood social media with expressions of gratitude using the hashtag featured in the title of this post.

A dear friend gave me a gratitude journal for my birthday in 2019. I used it for a few months and then set it aside when negative feelings overwhelmed me and made it difficult to feel grateful. I picked it up again this past summer determined to overcome negativity by thinking of three things to be grateful for each day. Here a sampling:

glorious summer weather with low humidity; open windows and birdsong; habits that help me do the "hard" thing; tender mercies (car stalled instead of moving forward which would have caused a collision); fireflies; Farmers' Market; fresh fruits and vegetables: Rainier Cherries, beets & greens, string beans; miracles of technology-sharing files on Google Docs; AC when it's hot and humid outside; inspiration for a quilt from scraps; TopDad's hard work to make the yard nice; crockpots-Fix it and Forget it!; General Conference talks; Noble's help rearranging the kitchen; pretty, colorful tablecloths; worms and all the other organisms in my compost pile; goals to guide me; appliances: washer, dryer, iron; good books to read; protection while driving my car with the broken suspension; finding pretty composition books; cool weather; seeing the comet with Noble; the wide open prairie sky; lush fields of corn and soybeans; pioneers old and modern; The Word of Wisdom; birds; Mr. Movie fixing my truck; brother-in-law giving his insights and help; water-to drink and to give my flowers; watermelon-the taste of summer; technology for viewing past general conference talks; losing 5.2 lb.; my new sewing machine; fresh vegetables; telephones and free long distance calling; pudding made with heavy cream; squirrel traps; Noble (on her birthday); clouds; emails & texts; evening walks; competent tow truck drivers; cameras; lotion and body butter; courageous patriots; Constitution of the USA; water to drink; waterfalls; peaches; thrift store treasures; bright moonlight; good roads for traveling; talks on cd; priesthood blessings; competent and compassionate surgeons; glorious late summer weather; Craigslist; competent mechanics; Amish popcorn; jackets; oatmeal; fresh peaches; rain that watered my flowers; cheese; well-stocked grocery store; God's protecting care through the storm; family; tender mercies of pain relief; competent physical therapist; books to read and learn from; cooler temperature; gorgeous weather with low humidity; frozen pizza; the right to vote; JET on his birthday; rain; microwaves to heat food; prosperity; prayer; patriots; birds; grocery stores and prepared food; pretty pictures; frozen pizza; summer fruits; low humidity and open windows; 

So much to be thankful for! And there's more to come.

I ALWAYS feel better after a recitation of blessings.

When upon life's billows you are tempest tossed,
When you are discouraged thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings; name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.


04 March 2020

A Virtuous Woman

If you know any single LDS men (age 30-36) who are looking for a virtuous woman I have one available.

She's intelligent, just finishing a BFA in Creative Writing, has been accepted to the MFA program, is fun loving, creative, spiritual, generous, patriotic (USAF veteran), gentle, loves children, and enjoys travel to new places.

10 November 2019

Remembering Him Daily

This is the talk I gave today in our stake conference:

Good morning my dear brothers and sisters; it is a joy to be with you as a congregation of disciples of Jesus Christ. He said that when two or more are gathered together, he is in the midst of us. It’s especially nice today to be with a larger crowd than I normally am with. There is strength in numbers!  I pray that we will feel His presence and be taught by the Holy Ghost.

We are a covenant making and keeping people. We make covenants at baptism and renew those covenants each time we worthily partake of the Sacrament. We make more covenants in the temple and remember them each time we participate again in those ordinances on behalf of someone else.

Does making and keeping covenants show in our appearance? Missionaries of the Restored Church of Jesus Christ are recognizable the world over by their black name tags. What about the rest of us? Without the distinctive black name tags is it easy to recognize us as followers of the Savior?   

As covenant disciples of Christ we should look different, act different, and be different from the world. We are called to be a peculiar, meaning special, exceptional, or set apart, people of God.

That we are followers of Christ should be obvious from the way we speak, interact with clerks, waiters, or others around us, the way we drive, the way we work, the way we share and volunteer, the way we dress, and the entertainment we choose. We should be known as courteous, thoughtful, kind, helpful, obedient to laws, generous, honest, modest, and virtuous because we have taken upon us His name and covenanted to remember Him always.

In the October 2017 General Conference, President Russell M. Nelson said:
“There is nothing easy or automatic about becoming such powerful disciples. Our focus must be riveted on the Savior and His gospel. It is mentally rigorous to strive to look unto Him in every thought.”

So how can we do it? Primary children sing, “If the Savior stood beside me, would I do the things I do?” Perhaps we all need to sing that regularly, and imagine the Savior with us, watching our actions and hearing our words.

A popular question in Christian circles, when facing a situation or need, is: What would Jesus do? Frankly, that question makes me uncomfortable because I can’t do what Jesus did. I don’t have the ability to read minds and hearts; I don’t have the power to heal all manner of sicknesses, and I don’t have the authority to raise the dead.

No, the question I’d rather ask myself is: “What has Jesus asked me to do?” He has asked me to treat others the way I want to be treated.

Am I courteous to other drivers? Am I patient behind the fumbling person at the checkout counter? Am I cheerful and kind to the clerk in the store? Am I helpful to the parent maneuvering a stroller through a heavy door? Am I focused when listening to the prattle of little children? Do I give the benefit of a doubt to the person who hurts my feelings? Do I share my time, talents or resources without grumbling? Do I forget my tiredness and go anyway? Do I sacrifice my desires so I can serve another? It is in these and many other small ways that we remember the Savior in our daily life and show that we are trying to be like Jesus.

The Sunday School answers to the question, How can I remember Jesus daily? are exactly right. Pray, study the scriptures, and the teachings of the modern prophets and apostles, attend church, serve in my calling, minister to others. We don’t just “go to church” we live the gospel! Each day, every day.

In one of Elder David A. Bednar’s early general conference talks he told the Parable of the Pickle. Do you remember? One of the steps in transforming a cucumber into a pickle is to be immersed and saturated in a brine for a specific amount of time. He likened this to our being immersed and saturated in the gospel, being fully active and participating.

“And after we come out of the waters of baptism, our souls need to be continuously immersed in and saturated with the truth and the light of the Savior’s gospel. Sporadic and shallow dipping in the doctrine of Christ and partial participation in His restored Church cannot produce the spiritual transformation that enables us to walk in a newness of life. Rather, fidelity to covenants, constancy of commitment, and offering our whole soul unto God are required if we are to receive the blessings of eternity.         (April 2007)

When we decide to skip meetings or activities, or we leave church early, we miss out on the strengthening and sustaining power of being with fellow saints; learning together, testifying and teaching each other, and building strong relationships with each other. It’s like pulling your phone off the charging cord when it’s at 50%. It just won’t last as long. Our spiritual battery might not last the full week either. Especially in areas where we are geographically separated we need regular time together to strengthen each other. You never know when a comment or testimony you share in the Sunday School class, Priesthood quorums or Relief Society, Young Women or Primary may be the very thing that blesses another who is struggling and needs a boost.

We remember Him when we are obedient to the commandments found in the scriptures, and to the invitations given at General Conference through modern prophets and apostles.

We remember Him when we sacrifice our worldly desires and appetites to make room for the sacred and eternal.

We remember Him when we live the Gospel by exercising faith in Him, Jesus Christ, repenting daily of our sins, then after being baptized, partaking of the sacrament weekly to renew our covenants, and by living worthy of the constant companionship of the Holy Ghost who will reveal the truth of all things to us.

We remember Him by staying morally clean, pure in thought and deed; being different from the world in our dress, our actions, and even our thoughts.

We remember Him by consecrating our time, talents, and resources to the building of His Kingdom; choosing to spend more time in the scriptures and church magazines, and less time on social media; more time in the temple and less time watching sports or other tv; more time ministering to the needs of others and less time collecting and caring for the vain things of this world.

Helaman counseled his sons:
And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fail. (Helaman 5:12)

Brothers and sisters, I testify that we can build our lives on the rock of our Redeemer, and as we choose to do so each day of our life, we can be strengthened and transformed to be like Him. He lives! He loves us! He will help us every step of the way.

In His holy name, Jesus Christ, amen.