Years ago when I was a first time mom, my older sister, who was at the tail end of hands on mothering, said that motherhood is the only job where by the time you figure out what you're doing, you're out of a job. Now past the time of being a hands on mom myself I've found that to be true. I'd do a much better job of raising our children if I could do it over with the knowledge and experience that I have now. Because I hope to be an eternal heavenly mother I don't have to stop learning and growing in the skills and knowledge it takes to be a perfect mother. We don't know anything about our eternal mother other than that she exists, but our Heavenly Parents sent a very special brother of ours to earth to be our example. Jesus Christ teaches us how to be a celestial being, and how to be able to live in the Celestial world. He told us to follow Him; He told us to do the things we saw him do, and He told us that we ought to be like Him.
While not all women will get the opportunity to be physical mothers in this life we all can be spiritual and emotional mothers to those around us. We all can develop the qualities and characteristics of Jesus.
I remember more than once singing with the children in Primary "I'm Trying to Be Like Jesus", and feeling convicted by the Spirit that I wasn't doing very well being like Him in my mothering. Do you know the words?
I'm trying to be like Jesus; I'm following in His ways.
I'm trying to love as he did, in all that I do and say.
At times I am tempted to make a wrong choice,
But I try to listen as the still small voice whispers,
Love one another as Jesus loves you.
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
For these are the things Jesus taught.
I'm trying to love my neighbor; I'm learning to serve my friends.
I watch for the day of gladness when Jesus will come again.
I try to remember the lessons he taught.
Then the Holy Spirit enters into my thoughts, saying:
Love one another as Jesus loves you.
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
For these are the things Jesus taught.
I'd like to review some of the ways we can try to be like Jesus and be a better person, male or female, better women, and better mothers.
Jesus knew the scriptures. Of course He did, He dictated them to the prophets! But during His mortal ministry He used them to refute Satan's lies in His hour of temptation. He used them to teach others, and He used them when testifying of His mission.
I sat in the Tabernacle in 1978 listening to President Spencer W. Kimball speak, and what he said has directed my life ever since. Speaking to the women of the church he said:
"Study the scriptures. Thus you may gain strength through the understanding of eternal things. You young women need this close relationship with the mind and will of our Eternal Father. We want our sisters to be scholars of the scriptures as well as our men. You need an acquaintanceship with his eternal truths for your own well being, and for the purposes of teaching your own children and all others who come within your influence." (Oct. 1978 Privileges and Responsibilities of Sisters)
We can be like Jesus by studying the scriptures, filling our minds and hearts with the word of God so it can be recalled when needed for teaching and testifying.
Jesus loved and welcomed children. Matthew records, "Then some children were brought to him so that he would lay hands upon them and pray, but the disciples rebuked them. But Jesus said, Allow the little children to come to me, and do not hinder them, because the kingdom of heaven belongs to ones like these." (Matt 19:14 The New Testament A Translation for Latter-Day Saints, Thomas A. Wayment)
Once when I was surrounded by the clamoring demands of five young children I told them to leave me alone, they were interrupting my work. Immediately into my mind the Spirit spoke "These children ARE your work!" Oh, . . . right. I forgot that I had entered into a partnership with God to assist in His work of bringing to pass the immortality and eternal life of man, by me bringing to pass the mortal life and spiritual education of five of His spirit children. It was a sobering moment.
Julie B. Beck, former Relief Society General President, said, "More than at any other time in the history of the world we need mothers who know. . . . When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children." (Oct 2007, Mothers Who Know)
While Sheri L. Dew, a single sister, was serving in the General Relief Society Presidency, she said,
As daughters of our Heavenly Father, and as daughters of Eve, we are all mothers and we have always been mothers. And we each have responsibilities to love and help lead the rising generation. How will our young women learn to live as women of God unless they see what women of God look like, meaning what we wear, watch, and read; how we fill our time and our minds; how we face temptation and uncertainty; where we find true joy; and why modesty and femininity are hallmarks of righteous women? How will our young men learn to value women of God if we don't show them the virtue of our virtues?" (Oct 2001, Are We Not All Mothers?)
We can be like Jesus by welcoming children into our lives, whether by birth, or adoption, or friendship, and leading them to the Savior and Our Heavenly Father.
Jesus taught His followers spiritual concepts, doctrines and principles in ways they could understand using familiar situations and objects. He taught them through parables, or stories.
The more we study the gospel in scriptures and general conference talks the easier it is to teach others. Filling our minds with things of eternity gives the Holy Ghost so much more to work with when bringing things to our remembrance when teaching moments arise.
We can be like Jesus by turning off the distractions of worldly media then looking at the natural world around us, inside and outside, to see what connections we can make to gospel doctrines and principles. Alma told Korihor that ". . . all things denote there is a God . . ." (Alma 30:44) Object lessons are all around us if we'll just look, and then share them with others as part of our testimonies.
Jesus went about doing good. He mercifully healed the blind, deaf, lame, leprous, and withered. And we're told by John that if all Jesus did ". . . should be written every one, I suppose that even the world itself could not contain the books that should be written." (John 21:25)
We can be merciful like Jesus in similar ways. Many around us are blinded by the subtle indoctrination of worldly attitudes and falsehoods. We can teach truth and lead others to the Light of the Gospel. Some are so centered on self or other idols that they cannot hear. Perhaps our quiet example would help them to understand an unspoken testimony of the Plan of Salvation, and invite them to listen to the whisperings of the Spirit. Some are lame and halted by sin or addiction and unable to motivate or discipline themselves. Maybe they could lean on our strength as they allow the Savior to rebuild their own. Some people are leprous with sinful worldly attitudes and need to be bathed in love and acceptance to be able to change. Some are withered by an absence of hope and need our cheerful optimism and faithful obedience as a guide to looking to the Savior and His Plan. No matter how someone is afflicted we can lead them to the healing power of Jesus Christ.
Jesus comforted those who were mourning. Mary and Martha's brother Lazarus died and the sisters were bereft. He comforted them by testifying that He is the resurrection and the life, and "though [Lazaruz is] dead, yet shall he live." (John 11:25) Then when Jesus was led to the sepulcher He wept. He too mourned the death of a friend. He understands.
We can be like Jesus by mourning with those who are bereft by the death of a loved one. We can comfort them with our testimony of the resurrection. We can share strength and hope as we continue together on our own mortal journeys.
Jesus was encouraging to those who struggled. When the woman caught in adultery was brought before Him, He didn't join in the mob's condemnation of her. He asked the mob to examine their own consciences, then waiting until they dispersed, He said to the woman, "Neither do I condemn thee; go and sin no more." (John 8:11)
We can be like Jesus by encouraging others to repent and turn from their sins, without condemning them for their sins. We can be a light and example to lead them to the redeeming power of the Savior to forgive and restore a life mired in sin. His example of asking a penetrating question to disburse the mob, then waiting for a private moment to speak to the sinner is instructive to us on how to treat others, especially children.
Jesus showed a firm, controlled hand when confronting evil and wickedness. At the time of the passover, ". . . Jesus went up to Jerusalem, and found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: And when he had a made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers' money, and overthrew the tables; And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father's house an house of merchandise." (John 2:13-16)
We can be like Jesus by not allowing into our homes or church buildings any worldly things or practices that prevent or detract from having the Spirit of the Lord in our holy places. King Benjamin taught, ". . .neither will ye suffer that they (our own children or others in our care) transgress the laws of God, and fight and quarrel one with another, and serve the devil, who is the master of sin, or who is the evil spirit which hath been spoken of by our fathers, he being an enemy to all righteousness. But ye will teach them to walk in the ways of truth and soberness; ye will teach them to love one another, and to serve one another." (Mosiah 4:14-15)
Sometimes we have to put our foot down and take a firm, hard stance against the evils that attempt to creep into our homes. Jesus didn't want any pollutions in His Father's house and neither should we want any in ours.
After washing His apostle's feet before their last passover meal together, Jesus instructed them, ". . . I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you." (John 13:15) And "If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them." (John 13:17)
I'm trying to be like Jesus, I hope you are too. We know it's hard because Satan doesn't want us to be like Jesus. He wants us to be miserable like himself, carnal (giving in to our fleshy appetites), sensual (trusting only our five senses and neglecting our spiritual side), and devilish (giving in to temptation, disregarding our covenants, and disobeying the commandments). But together, as we encourage and nurture each other we can overcome the devil and walk with Jesus on the path to Eternal Life. He is with us every step of the way, as long as we are trying, repenting, and trying again.
I testify that God, Our Heavenly Father lives. Jesus Christ is our Spiritual Father, Savior and Redeemer, Example and Friend. We can grow to be like them because it is in our spiritual DNA to do so.
In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
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